Ten ways to be a better boudoir photographer
Patrick Falaniko • 23 July 2025
Ten Quiet Truths I’ve Learned After 30 Years of Working With Women
Over the years, I’ve been invited into some of the most vulnerable and powerful moments in women’s lives — and I never take that lightly.
Body Love nudes & Boudoir photography isn’t any different, it's not about quick poses and fancy gear. It’s about presence, preparation, and deep respect.
So whether you’re just starting out or refining your craft, here are ten gentle but essential truths I’ve learned that shape every session I do...
1. Keep your space sacred — and spotless.
I can't believe how many novice photographers miss this one - Us professional creatives - photographers and models alike can create in all manner of creative and location chaos but it doesn’t matter how beautiful your work is - as a boudoir or body love empowerment photographer your responsibilities move beyond the creative and into client comfort - if your studio feels cluttered, dusty, or awkward, that energy lingers. Women notice everything, not because they’re picky, but because they’re attuned. So honour the space. Create calm, warmth, and intentional beauty — from the drapes and bedding, down to the bathroom bin. Our home studio may not be the biggest and fanciest in the world - but it's as welcoming as a big hug.
2. Be in relationship with your tools.
Your camera, your light, your set — they should be extensions of your hands, your mind and your vision. You can’t expect someone to relax into softness while you’re wrestling with your camera settings. Know your gear well enough that you can stay focused on her.
3. Nourish your curiosity.
A boudoir or nude photographer isn’t just a technician – you’re an artist, a student of femininity, an observer of subtle power and expression. Learn about lingerie, body language, historical portraiture, feminist art. The more you understand the layers, the more beautifully you can hold them. My personal go to is books, Everything from Dita Von Teese to Fashion History to Art Deco design.
4. Talk like a human. Listen like a friend.
A session with me often feels like a warm, easy conversation between friends – with a lot of laughter and a few sensual pauses in between. If you can’t hold warm, flowing conversation when someone is fully dressed, it may be hard to build the kind of trust needed when they’re not. Connection is everything. And if you're a man it's even more important to go out and talk to women, even more importantly, listen :).
5. Let your vision gently support her story, allowing it to shine first.
There’s a time for artistic risk-taking — but it’s not when someone is placing their trust in you. Sometimes when I hear a beginner photographer complaining client's not doing what they want, I think hmm...Your clients are not muses for your creative experiment. They’re the centre of the story. Let your vision elevate them, not distract from who they are.
These things don’t just make for better images — they create a safer, softer, more empowering experience. And that’s what women remember. That’s what they carry with them, and hopefully tell their friends.
So let's talk more about navigating posing, boundaries, and whether you’re ready to work with nudity at all.
6. Posing begins with energy, not angles.
There’s no perfect formula. I tend to start most clients with a selection of simple poses and movements. The first thing you should notice is every woman carries her own rhythm. Yes we use poses as starting points, but you don’t arrange her – at least I don't – you guide and you witness her. Learn to read breath, body tension, direct easy movements to help her to gain softness in the hands (this is an area that holds nerves and tension and will show in the final images). That’s where the real magic lies. A flattering angle is lovely, but a truthful one is unforgettable.
7. Consent is an ongoing conversation.
Clients always fill out a questionnaire detailing what outfits and what level of nudity or sensuality they are comfortable with but doesn’t start and end with a booking form or questionnaire. You’re continuously attuned with your client's flow, checking in gently, offering space, and always respectful. A quiet “are you okay here?” whispered mid-pose can mean more than any contract. Your energy should always say: “You’re in charge. I’m right here with you.” Some clients are very forthright, others are very quite and internal with their thoughts...and although I always encourage outspokenness...I definitely have to call on my mind reading intuition occasionally.
8. There's no need to rush into nudity — or even centre it.
If your client has booked your boudoir or body love session, she is already aware you are a specialist in nude and sensual imagery. I've had many a client come in for portrait sessions and decide they want to try nudes. that's ok too. Intimacy isn’t necessarily measured by how little someone wears. Some of the most sensual, powerful images I’ve ever made were almost fully clothed. Let your client lead. Trust unfolds naturally — each layer revealing something beautiful. Some women will peel everything away. Some will only lift the edge. Both literally and emotionally. Honour both.
9. Confidence is more important than creativity.
In this kind of work, the best “technique” is calm, grounded confidence. Know where you’re asking her to place her hand and why. Speak clearly. Move with intention. When you can hold your own presence, she can soften into hers. And from there - that’s where the artistry flows.
10. You are not the gift — she is.
This one matters most. You are there to witness, reflect, and reveal - not to perform or prove yourself. Let her take up space. Let her surprise herself. That’s where your real power as a boudoir photographer lies: not in what you create, but in what you help her reclaim.
Working with women is a privilege. Holding space for their sensuality is a responsibility. And if you do it right, it becomes one of the most beautiful and healing creative practices you’ll ever know.
If you’re reading this as a client — know that everything I write here, I hold in every session. It’s never just a photoshoot. It’s something more.
Let’s Create Something Beautiful Together
We have become known for beautiful studio nude photography, but what truly sets us apart is the personal connection we build with each client, understanding what she wants, and why so many clients return for sessions. This isn’t just about creating stunning images—it’s about creating an experience that leaves you feeling strong, radiant, and truly yourself.
Ready to book your own, boudoir, nude or erotic photoshoot?
Head over to our
Contact Form
– let’s make it happen, whether at our home studio in Walthamstow or on location in London, the Southeast, or beyond.
Patrick Falaniko
Owner & Lead Photographer | Goddess Studio
Share with your goddess besties :)
Love what I do? feel free to share this with a goddess you know :)
It must be getting close to 95% or more of clients choosing to go nude, whether body love confidence or more sensual and free expression. It has been very interesting, that although clients often bring dozens of cute lingerie outfits, often they are just launching points to a freer form of expression.
There are a thousand ways to express and capture erotic themes and sensuality—through movement, light, texture, and emotion. Whether you’re drawn to the raw intimacy of nude and erotic photography , the elegant allure of boudoir nude photography , or the timeless beauty of nude photography boudoir , every session is about capturing what makes you feel powerful, free, and uniquely yourself. When I launched as a photographer Sensual photography quickly became one of our most popular requests and we set up a page especially here .
Our unedited boudoir photography gallery is our most popular package add-on! Women love having a record of their day pre-edit. Honestly, some days I feel like I could be a completely Photoshop-free photographer—especially when it comes to body love photography.
One thing people don’t always realise about boudoir sessions? They are not all serious affairs. There is a LOT of laughing, unexpected moments, and the very rare wardrobe situations. They are celebrations of you, and especially birthdays, often there’s cake and balloons and the occasional glass of Prosecco too.
We always love it when clients share their stories and experiences. "I couldn't have been happier with my photoshoot experience, and I highly recommend working with Patrick. From the moment I arrived, he created a comfortable environment and took the time to understand what I wanted from the session.
Reaching your 40s is a powerful milestone, often bringing with it a deeper sense of confidence and freedom. If you’re a woman embracing this era of your life, a boudoir and nude photography session can be the perfect way to celebrate who you are—bold, assured, and unapologetically yourself. (The images above are just a selection of women in their 40s, 50s & 60s who have graced our lens) Owning Your Power By the time you hit your 40s, you know what you want and what truly matters. Whether you’re exploring sensuality in a new way or simply feeling more comfortable in your own skin, one thing is clear—women only grow stronger with time. Boudoir nude photography offers a beautiful way to express your confidence, sensuality, and joy in a space that is entirely yours. Our home-based London boudoir studio provides a relaxed, intimate setting where you can explore your unique beauty with ease. Whether you’re drawn to a classic boudoir session, an artistic nude photoshoot, or something with an erotic or spicier vibe, every session is tailored to reflect you. Your Body, Your Rules We believe that beauty and sensuality have no expiration date. Whether you’re posing in lingerie or embracing the power of nude photography boudoir, your experience is about celebrating yourself on your own terms. Our very first clients were women over 40—some in their 50s and 60s—who set the tone for everything we do. Their confidence and self-expression have even inspired a new generation, with our under-30 client base growing as well. You never know who you might inspire simply by owning your moment. Women over 40 have featured extensively in our Body Love group days and charity calendar shoots, stepping into their power in every way. From elegant boudoir portraits to bold nude and erotic photography, this is about you—your story, your beauty, your rules. This Is Your Time Our clients range from 20 to 70, all with a shared desire to embrace their bodies and express themselves through photography that feels empowering and liberating. Whether you’re stepping into a nude erotic photoshoot for the first time or continuing a sensual journey of self-expression, we’re here to capture the confident, radiant woman that you are today. Let’s Create Something Beautiful Together We have become known for beautiful studio nude photography, but what truly sets us apart is the personal connection we build with each client. This isn’t just about creating stunning images—it’s about creating an experience that leaves you feeling strong, radiant, and truly seen. Ready to book your own boudoir and nude photography session? Head over to our Contact Form – let’s make it happen, whether at my home studio in Walthamstow or on location in London, the Southeast, or beyond. Patrick Falaniko Owner & Lead Photographer | Goddess Studio
Motherhood is an incredible journey, but it’s easy to lose touch with your own sense of self in the midst of caring for your family. If you’re a mum looking to reconnect with your body and reclaim your confidence, a boudoir photoshoot could be the perfect way to do just that. Rediscovering Your Sensuality At our home-based London boudoir studio, we offer a personal, welcoming space where you can rediscover your sensuality on your own terms. A boudoir shoot isn’t about fitting into a specific mould—it’s about embracing the unique beauty that comes with your life experience. As your photographer, I’ll work closely with you to create an environment that feels comfortable and supportive. Whether you choose to wear lingerie, opt for a nude photography session, or something in between, the focus is on capturing the real you. This experience is about more than just photos—it’s about reclaiming your body, your confidence, and your sense of self. Embrace Your Body, Your Way Every mum’s body tells a story, and every curve, line, and mark is part of that narrative. Our boudoir and nude photography sessions are designed to help you embrace your body as it is, creating beautiful images that celebrate your journey. Whether you’re interested in a traditional boudoir photoshoot or want to explore something more daring like an erotic nude photoshoot, we’re here to guide you every step of the way. Our clients, who range from 20 to 70, all share a common desire: to celebrate themselves through joyful, free-flowing photography. This is your time to focus on you and celebrate your own beauty. We love celebrating women at every stage of their lives, We also provide maternity portraits , and of course once the little darlings fly the nest? We can talk about Unapologetically You: Boudoir Photography for Women Over 40 :)
Your 20s are a time of exploration, self-discovery, and making memories that last a lifetime. As you embrace this vibrant period of your life, what better way to capture your confidence and sensuality than with a boudoir shoot? One caveat here, we get many young women who want to explore modelling. Boudoir is not lingerie modelling, fashion or glamour modelling, at least as far as we and our clients are concerned it is intimate and sensual form of self expression. If modelling is your goal, we can discuss and provide you with the appropriate package. Right! let's get back to boudoir photography sessions :)
So what happens if you really only require one or two images? Yes, I get do get many inquiries for actor and modelling online applications, and Linkedin and Business Profile images, the Ice Breaker session is ideal for you.
Of course you can treat yourself to a luxurious and empowering experience, simply because you deserve it. Here's a few more wonderful reasons to book a boudoir photo shoot or photo session with us... 1. Self-Love: Take time out to embrace self-care and celebrate your own unique beauty. 2. Empowerment: (Re)discover your confidence and an inner strength you may have not realised you had all along. 3. Milestone Celebrations: Whether it's turning 30, 40, or 50, any significant milestone, a boudoir session can serve as a beautiful reflection of your personal growth, strength, and resilience. 4. Body Positivity: Embrace and appreciate your body just as it is. 5. Love Letter to Yourself: Create a visual reminder of self-love and acceptance. 6. Pre-Wedding Confidence Boost: Feel stunning and confident before your big day, Before you say "I do," treat yourself to a boudoir session as a reminder of your beauty, confidence, and the amazing journey you're about to embark on as a bride. 7. Anniversary Surprise: Gift your partner an intimate and meaningful surprise. 8. Post-Baby Rejuvenation: Celebrate your journey into motherhood with a revitalising session. 9. Relationship Refresh: Reignite the spark and create beautiful memories together, there's nothing like sending a boudoir photo (or two) to your lover. 10. Empowering Gift: Surprise a loved one with a unique and empowering experience. 11. Bachelorette Party Fun: Enjoy a memorable and empowering activity with your closest friends, hey girl! up for a boudoir photo shoot?. Ask about our Refer a Friend and Share a session vouchers. 12. Body Transformation: All our photo shoots can be transformational, if you're ready to celebrate your personal fitness milestones or body-positive journeys, just type in 'boudoir shoot near me' and let's take that first step :). 13. Boosting Self-Esteem: Enhance your self-esteem and see yourself in a brand new light, with beautiful boudoir nude photography to take home . 14. Embracing Vulnerability: The most courageous things you can do, when you feel the fear, get up and do it anyway. Overcome insecurities and embrace your vulnerability. 15. Channeling Your Inner Goddess: Tap into your fierce, empowered, and feminine energy, I love this sooo much, you are goddess, it's time to roar. 16. Personal Reflection: Capture a moment of 'close your eyes and feel the sunshine' sensation of pure joy. Slow and sensuous movements and poses is a wonderful opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth, go deep and stir your soul. See it shine out through your boudoir photos. 17. Embracing Sensuality: Reconnect with your sensual side and embrace your femininity, from fine art nudes to spicy mama vibes, love yourself in your own way. 18. Overcoming Body Image concerns: Challenge and overcome those negative body image thoughts, let's draw them out & pop them in the trash. 19. Just Because: Treat yourself to a fabulous and empowering experience, simply because it's so much fun. 20. Forever Memories: Create stunning and timeless images that you can cherish for a lifetime. How did we do, did we mention any you resonate with? I'd love to hear your reasons for doing a goddess session. Why not fill out our questionnaire and let's have a chat. Patrick Falaniko Owner & Lead Photographer | Goddess Studio | Boudoir Photography London, UK & Beyond
